Tuesday, March 29, 2011

What is it that makes people (try) to be monogamous?

Tonight I went to class and we were discussing the psychology of human pairing and relationships. Now I accept the fact that pairing is, from an evolutionary point of view, a necessity. However, the Evolutionary Psych point of view leaves itself open to criticisms, such as in the case of homosexuality, infertility, birth defects (specifically of the reproductive organs and the brain), and most importantly, of why there is such a desire to become paired. I've read many studies and seen many statistics on depression, anxiety, and suicide, and one of the leading causes seem to be this phenomena of human bonding; whether it be an individual in a relationship, or lack thereof. This seems counter-intuitive to evolution as this behavior, while beneficial to procreation, may also be detrimental to the individual(s) involved. Likewise, it still doesn't explain why there is (pardon the Freudian term) such a drive for humans to WANT to have relationships. Keep in mind, that procreation can and does happen outside of relationships (i.e. single parent families, etc.) As a I mentioned before homosexuality really complicates things even more. Individuals in relationships, especially long-term ones, consistently rate their happiness higher. I don't see a contradiction there: relationships increase the odds and survivability of offspring, so we're designed to want to be in them. Homosexuality may not be adaptive, or it may. Looking into kin selection, which makes sense in this context. Or it could be something else entirely. Homosexuality exists throughout the animal kingdom, so it may serve the same purpose in humans, or not; human sexuality is complicated.

12 comments:

  1. Social pressure. I'm monogamous btw.

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  2. Because deep inside, most of the people are scared to be alone. I suppose.

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  3. Very interesting post, ill think about it and come back with a decent thought lol 1+ follower.

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  4. Sup bro, monogamy is good but you cant deny you wouldnt tap that ass if it came across your way and she would never know

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  5. in a monogamous relationship, the children tend to do better with the father around to support, set examples, etc.

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  6. It is really odd to think about.

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  7. The thought of being hurt and jealousy (wrong spelling) keeps people together.
    I'm sure nobody here would not have a problem with their other half fucking around.

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  8. natural instinct to provide a stable environment to offspring to give them the best advantage.

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  9. I think its genes? No idea. I have no problems with them.

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  10. I can't be sure why people WANT to have relationships, but I do certainly think it's a societal thing.

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  11. in my opinion the community and the history has creaed thhe monogamy

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